Recently, one writer for Punch Newspapers share some deep thoughts on why many people end up in marriages that are not right for them. According to the writer, many young people, especially in Nigeria, are making big mistakes when it comes to choosing their life partners.
The writer talked about a wedding ceremony he attended where the bride was described as a ‘church-girl’ who agreed to marry a man who was just starting his life and didn’t even have a car. This scenario highlights how some women settle for men they might not have considered if they were more patient and looked beyond immediate material gains.
The article also mentioned a young lady who had very specific and materialistic criteria for her potential husband, such as living in a certain area of Lagos and having a generator and a good car. This mindset, the writer argues, is misguided and can lead to unhappy marriages.
Another example given was of a man who married a woman based on her appearance and financial status but later found out she was more expensive to maintain than he anticipated. This led to significant marital issues and eventually the consideration of divorce.
The writer concluded that many people are marrying their mistakes because they are not looking for the right qualities in a partner. Instead, they are often swayed by superficial attributes or the promise of financial security, which can lead to unhappy and unsustainable marriages.
This issue is not limited to Nigeria; it reflects a broader societal problem where people often prioritize the wrong things when choosing a life partner. The article emphasizes the importance of recognizing and marrying someone based on their true character rather than fantasy or material expectations.
