If you don dey find am hard to buy gift for your boyfriend on Boyfriend Day or any other day sef, no vex, you no dey alone. E be like say man pikin dey hard to shop for, abi? But why e dey like that? Well, psychology get some answers for us.
One of di reason be say men dey quick buy wetin dem want before anybody get chance buy am for dem. Clinical psychologist wey dem dey call Avrum Weiss even talk for him book, ‘Hidden in Plain Sight: How Men’s Fears of Women Shape Their Intimate Relationships,’ say men no dey wait for surprise gift. Dem go just waka go buy am. This kain wahala dey always leave people wey wan buy gift dey scratch head.
For plenty men, gift wey go enter them eye na di one wey dey useful. Dem go appreciate gift wey dey practical like tools for house or gadgets for work. But if you buy spa day or some kain jara things wey dey sweet, e fit no go down well with dem. Aim be say dem dey conditioned to dey practical rather than to enjoy. This one dey make dem no too dey appreciate gifts wey dey for just fun or relaxation.
Weiss talk say men dey find am hard to allow demself enjoy wetin no dey useful. For example, while mama fit collect spa treatment, papa go get something wey be toolset. This wey dey make choosing gift dey hard. Men dey think more of di solution than emotional stuff.
Research still show small say men brain dey wired to fix problem, and this fit make dem no too dey see di value for gifts wey dey aimed at sentimental vibes. Sometimes di question na “wetin dis thing go solve for me?” E dey complicate di gift-giving matter.
Some men dey find di receiving of gifts hard, maybe because of insecurity, fear or di feeling say dem dey inadequate. Sometimes dem dey even think say gift dey for manipulation or say dem suppose “earn” am.
So wetin you suppose do? Instead to dey buy same old practical gift, try challenge your bobo to enjoy pleasure. Give am maybe experience like surprise trip or tickets to activity wey e no go choose himself. E fit dey awkward small, but e go help am enjoy more. Di main wahala na how you go find something wey he fit truly enjoy.
