Beijing, China – For years now, China don dey grap with serious imbalance for gender ratio wey dey affect di love life of di men dem. E get 30 million more men than women, and dis one na wahala wey make many men dey vex about relationships and marriage.
One relationship coach wey be Hao don gather plenti people wey wan learn how to date well. E don even train over 3,000 students, but e dey vex say di real wahala na when man no dey for better background. As e talk, “Many of dem na workers wey dey hustle hard to find woman wey go marry dem.”
We don see how dis matter dey run for di new film wey dem dey call Violet Du Feng, e show di reality for men wey dey struggle to find wife. Di film focus on Hao and how him dey help three young guys achieve dem dreams of marriage during one week-long training.
Di janjan people wey dey featured like Li, Wu, and Zhou, na under-30 guys wey dey face serious pressure to find missus. Dis na as naija people dey talk, “abeg, show me road!” Dem all dey try adjust since dem come from di era wey one-child policy still dey happen.
During 1980s, China introduce di one-child policy because population don too much, but dem later realize say e bring imbalance wey cause all dis wahala wey dem dey face now. For long, e be like say dem dey favor boys over girls, wey make many women face discrimination and even abandonment. E don so bad, say many men no fit find women to marry for their own country!
Du Feng wey dey live for America talk say di problem no be China matter alone; na global wahala wey plenty people dey face. She talk, “We see everyone dey try balance wetin dem see online and wetin dey real life. Na wetin make many guys dey find am tough is di difference between reality and wetin dem dey show for social media.”
Dem also dey face pressure from society, as Dr. Zheng Mu from Singapore talk about di psychological stress wey dey come with finding wife. As she put am, “For China, men dey see marriage as a big responsibility, so dem dey feel serious pressure when dem no fit find wife.”
As for Zhou, he dey spend plenty money looking for woman wey go marry am. E talk, “I dey make $600 every month, but one meeting with woman wey I fit marry dey chop $300. Na serious wahala for my side!”
Di film no even show how di life of men wey dey hustle as gigolos be. Du Feng clarify say di society no dey accept dis kind life for China, because di legal system still dey hold di traditional view of marriage.
Online dating don change di game for many men and women as over 10 million women dey use online platforms to find love. Last year, Reuters report show say di number of single men don dey increase for China. Du Feng dey worry about di way relationships don change, especially for di younger generation.
At di end of di film, we see how plenty men dey hustle to find acceptance and success as men, all in di name of love. And as Hao dey conclude, “If you no love yourself, no woman go love you back.”
